So Valentine’s Day was very recent and this day is notorious for being “the time” that you tell all those around you how much you love them, or you spend time with your significant other, etc. However, I want to talk about the importance of self-love. Self-love is SO important. You might be wondering what is self-love, and why would you say it is important. Self-love is knowing your own worth, which by the way does not come from people it comes from God, it is respecting your body, and your heart and your mind. It is important because we need to be able to love ourselves before we can truly be in deeper, more meaningful relationships with other people.
So what does self-love look like? Self-love is #1, recognizing your worth. Like I said, this comes from God, not people. We are children of God, which is super cool, and he has room for us in his kingdom, and he has amazing plans for each of us. We are a temple of God, and we need to see this and recognize this. It is the first step in self-love.
The next thing to do, is respect your body, and demand that others respect it too. You are a person and you should never be put into a physically uncomfortable or unnerving position. You are wonderful, and deserve respect. Not only do you deserve respect from others, but your body deserves respect from you as well. You need to pay attention to how your body responds to certain foods, and only eat what is good for you. There is always room for a little indulgence, but don’t eat an entire pizza by yourself, because then your body will have to work extra hard for you, to digest it, when that is unnecessary. This also goes for exercising. Exercising is important, but listen to your body, if you get to a point when it feels like you are going to break, then take a step back and figure out if it’s a mind block you have to overcome, or if you should really back your workout off on the intensity level a little bit.
Mental health is also a big part of Self-Love. We all go through cycles in our lives where there is more stress or more emotions, these feelings can spiral out of control and lead to depression, and anxiety. Sometimes people are genetically predisposed to these, and others develop them over time. Either way, you need to again listen to your body and recognize when something is too much, or when you become too stressed, or you push yourself too hard. In those moments take deep breaths, meditate, read, write, whatever you need to do to work in bringing yourself to a better state. Sometimes seeking professional help may become necessary, if so, do it. Talk to a therapist, talk to your doctor, they can help you figure out what is going on and help you build a plan to help you.
Finally, self-love is all about knowing yourself. Someone once told me that you have to love yourself before you can love others, and you have to know someone before you can truly love them. If you have to know someone to love them, then in trying to love ourselves we need to know ourselves. Take the time to try new things, figure out what you like and don’t like. Try new styles of clothing, see a new movie you didn’t think you would like, try new foods, try a new book. In trying all of these new things, make sure that you are taking care of yourself daily, weekly, and monthly. Take time to be you, and take time to recharge and focus on you. Many of us lead pretty stressful lives, and sometimes we need to just breathe and focus on one thing at a time. I encourage you to do this all the time, but especially this month.